Spring Break & Shared Custody: How Co Parents Handle Travel Plans After Divorce or Separation

By: Jarbath Pena Law Group

Spring break is a time of year that many children look forward to. It’s a chance to pause from the school routine, spend quality time with family, and enjoy some well-deserved fun. But for divorced or separated parents, spring break can also be a time of confusion, miscommunication, or even conflict—especially when travel is involved.

Whether you’re recently divorced or years into a co-parenting arrangement, spring break brings a unique set of challenges and opportunities. Here’s what you need to know to prepare, avoid conflict, and ensure your child has a stress-free and enjoyable break.

1. Start with Your Co-Parenting Plan

Your first step should always be to review your current parenting plan or time-sharing agreement.

In Florida, most family law court orders include provisions for holidays and school breaks. These plans should outline:

• Who has parenting time during spring break

• Whether the break is split, alternated yearly, or assigned entirely to one parent

• Travel limitations or notice requirements

• Protocols for international or out-of-state travel

If your parenting plan includes specific language about spring break, follow it to the letter. If it’s vague or doesn’t mention the break at all, the default schedule may apply—unless both parents mutually agree to an alternative arrangement.

Pro Tip: Don’t assume anything. Even if you had the kids last spring break or your ex verbally agreed to something last year, rely on the court-approved plan and get any new agreement in writing.

2. Communicate Early and Clearly

Once you’ve reviewed the plan, reach out to your co-parent as early as possible to confirm arrangements or propose any changes. If you’re planning a trip, share details such as:

• Travel dates and times

• Destination and lodging information

• Flight numbers or transportation plans

• A phone number or contact method while traveling

The more information you can provide up front, the less likely you’ll face resistance or miscommunication. Most parenting plans in Florida include a requirement to notify the other parent of travel in advance, often with at least 30 days’ notice for out-of-state or international trips.

Pro Tip: Use Email or a Co-Parenting App like OurFamily Wizard, FAYR or TalkingParents to keep records of conversations and agreements.

3. Know the Rules for International Travel

If you’re planning to leave the country with your child, additional steps are required.

U.S. law generally requires both parents to consent to international travel for minors. Airlines and immigration officers often ask for:

• A notarized letter of consent from the non-traveling parent

• A copy of the court order showing legal custody rights

• Your child’s valid passport

If your co-parent refuses to sign the consent or creates unnecessary obstacles, you may need to file a motion with the court. This is especially important if your trip is time-sensitive or if there is a history of disagreements about travel.

4. Flexibility Can Prevent Future Conflict

While court orders provide structure, flexibility is often key to maintaining a peaceful co-parenting relationship. If your co-parent asks for a travel swap or schedule change that doesn’t violate the court order, consider the bigger picture. Would you appreciate the same consideration?

When parents cooperate, they model problem-solving and respect for their children—especially valuable during emotional times like holidays.

You might also discuss “make-up time” if one parent misses time due to travel. This can help both parents feel that time is fairly balanced, reducing long-term resentment.

5. Keep the Focus on Your Child(ren)

Spring break is ultimately about giving your child a chance to relax, have fun, and make memories. In high-conflict situations, it’s easy to let personal tensions cloud the focus. But remember: this isn’t about winning time—it’s about doing what’s best for your child.

Here are a few tips to keep things child-centered:

• Avoid arguing about logistics in front of your child

• Reassure them that both parents are happy they’ll have fun, wherever they go

• Encourage them to enjoy their time with the other parent

• Let them call or video chat with the non-traveling parent, especially if away for several days

6. What If There’s No Agreement in Place?

If you don’t yet have a formal parenting plan—or if your current plan doesn’t address spring break at all—this is your sign to take action. Verbal agreements can fall apart quickly, especially if there’s tension between parents. A comprehensive parenting plan that includes detailed holiday schedules can help prevent last-minute stress year after year.

If you’re newly separated and planning to file for divorce, an attorney can help you request a temporary time-sharing schedule to ensure spring break (and upcoming summer) go smoothly.

7. For Complex Long Distance or High-Net-Worth Parents: Don’t Overlook the Details

For families with complex situations—whether it’s a complex long distance plan, international travel, or private school schedules—planning ahead is even more important. Spring break vacations may involve passports, international custody rules, or multiple caregivers. A clear agreement on who pays for what, who books the flights, and how communication is handled while traveling can avoid costly disputes.

If you have a high-net-worth divorce pending, or are already subject to a complex long distance parenting plan / agreement, consult your attorney before planning an elaborate trip with your child—especially abroad.

Final Thoughts: Structure + Flexibility = Peace of Mind

Spring break can be a time of fun and connection with your child, even after divorce. By understanding your parenting plan, communicating clearly, and staying flexible when possible, you can make the holiday smooth, stress-free, and memorable for everyone involved.

If you’re facing spring break custody concerns, need to modify your parenting plan, or want to create a more detailed holiday schedule, our experienced family law team is here to help. We’ll guide you through the legal process and help you protect what matters most—your peace of mind and your child’s well-being.

Let Us Help Guide You

Spring break travel and time-sharing issues can create unnecessary stress if not addressed early and properly. Understanding your rights and responsibilities—especially when court orders, travel logistics, or high-conflict situations are involved—is essential for protecting your child’s best interests.

At Jarbath Peña Law Group, we have years of experience guiding parents through every aspect of family law, from creating detailed parenting plans to resolving travel disputes and modifying custody orders. Let us help you find peace of mind this spring season.

Call our team at 305-615-1005 or contact us online to schedule a consultation and see how we can help you navigate your family law matter today.